How About Some Quiet Listening?

September 11, 2023

Tomorrow marks the 22nd Anniversary of the tragedy of 9/11.  Everyone who was alive at the time probably remembers each and every moment of that awful day.  At the time, my wife and I lived in NYC and I was working at my office downtown that awful day.  As I watched the second plane hit the South tower from my office window, I can remember my feelings of shock, sadness, fear and ultimately anger as if it were yesterday.  One thing that I can tell you is that in the weeks after, everyone, and I mean everyone, in NYC worked together towards a common goal, which was recovery.

Fast forward to today, and I can say with a high degree of confidence that we as a country have forgotten the spirit of coming together or working towards a solution.  What has gone wrong?  I wish I knew.  However, perhaps I can offer a solution.

Over the last few years, the term “Quiet” has been linked to a variety of terms from “Quiet Quitting” to “Quiet Hiring” and most recently “Quiet Cutting”.  Well, I am going to take some liberty here and come up with a new use.  How about some “Quiet Listening?”

In my mind the solution to the divisiveness that has pervaded society has its roots in people not truly listening to one another.  Everybody wants to get their point across and if you don’t agree with the other person, they are typically dismissed.  That type of mentality and behavior lays the groundwork for things that ultimately lead to tragic events like 9/11.

If we truly want to move forward, I do believe that we need to engage in some “Quiet Listening.”  I will leave you with this quote that I have heard from people a lot smarter than me:

You have two ears and one mouth, use them in proportion

I do hope you take some time tomorrow and engage in some Quiet Listening.

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